Hi!!! My name is Jordan but I go by Jordy and my husbands name is Stephen. He is 39 and I am 36 years old. Here is our IVF story. Stephen and I met in 2004 at a Honda car meet up club. We became fast friends and hung out quite often. We were just best friends for quite some time. He was always my plus one to weddings, my “date” to fun events, concerts and on fun wild adventures. I never honestly thought he would be the man I would marry. In 2013, Stephen and I took a “just friends” trip to Cabo, Mexico. Now I know most of you are thinking “Yeah right, you don’t go to Mexico as just friends” Well we did. While we were there we went to dinner and he said he couldn’t imagine life without me in it, he wanted to take care of me and have a life together. Well how could I turn him down. After 8 years of being best friends I decided to say yes. Our dating life was amazing, we had fun, traveled to lots of places together and were enjoying life to the fullest. Stephen ended up proposing to me on November 18, 2016. I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with this man. I never wanted to have kids-but when Stephen talked about having a family it changed my mind instantly. I was adopted from Korea and I also felt like having a child would be so amazing. Someone to share the same genetics, have the same blood I do and for someone to share my looks. Whenever someone says “Why don’t you adopt-you’re adopted” We have thought about adoption and would love to adopt-but I would love to have a child who has the same DNA as I do. Being adopted-I have longed to have a child who shares these things with me.
In 2017 we got married and it was seriously the best day of my life. The week of our wedding-I experienced our second miscarriage. I am thankful we were getting married because that helped me to keep my mind off of the miscarriage. Yes, it was hard to go through and it happened pretty quickly without drugs-so maybe it wasn’t meant to be! We realized that after having a second miscarriage we needed to go see someone. We ended up going to our first clinic and this is where we found out that I had a unique uterus. It is called Unicornuate Uterus. I was born with only 1 fallopian tube. My uterus is half the size of yours. This was causing the embryo not finding a place to settle. We decided to switch clinics and I am so thankful we did. The REs at the new clinic are absolutely amazing and I love them. They have been amazing.
We are on the last night of Stims and triggering tonight. We are doing our retrieval and even though I am trying to stay hopeful there is still a part of me that is being careful about being too hopeful. The best advice I could give anyone going through either an IUI or IVF would be to be gentle with yourself. Love yourself. We are working hard to have our bodies make a baby. Love yourself for being strong. You are doing an amazing job. There is light at the end of this tunnel. Also I find it so important to share with your loved ones whether it be your partner, your family or close friends how you are feeling. It’s so important and don’t lie about your feelings. They will be there to support you no matter what. I am always an open book so feel free to reach me at @JPSBIVFJourney and I am happy to answer your questions. Wherever you are in your TTC Journey I wish you all the best. Sending love to you all! Xoxox