Hello! My name is Guillermina from Argentina and my husband Patricio from Mexico.
We first wanted to thank you for featuring our story and for continuing to bring awareness around infertility and loss.
Our story began July 6, 2019 on our wedding day. This was the day we started trying to grow our family. We were full of joy, happiness, and prepared to see those two beautiful pink lines on our pregnancy test. Even though I had this gut feeling that it was going to take us a while to conceive, to our surprise in August we found out we were pregnant!
It was unbelievable, I will never forget that moment. I got back from a work trip to Germany and felt something different I couldn’t explain. I ran to the store and bought a pregnancy test. Got home and went straight to the bathroom. Immediately I saw the two pink lines show. OH MY GOD!!! IM PREGNANT. I wanted to do something super special for my husband so before he got back from work I had baked brownies, made a beautiful card and left the pregnancy test for him to see.
Patricio was shocked, over the moon happy, we immediately told our family and close friends.
This pregnancy was going to be extra special because I was going to by pregnant at the same time as my sister! She was 9 weeks ahead of me! This was our life long dream. Have babies together!
It was a week before our 8 week appointment that i started with light spotting. I called me doctor and they said it was normal for some women, not to worry and wait for our appt.
At our 8 week appointment we heard the words we will never forget “I’m not seeing what I’m supposed to see. Here, this is your baby, but I don’t see a heartbeat. I should see one by now. Let me call the doctor”. Baby had developed to 7 weeks and 1 day.
Our hearts sank. We immediately started sobbing. Asking questions, why, what did I do, how did this happen? Why us?
We were told it was “common” to have one miscarriage. We were assured we were healthy and that we should try again.
I had my D&C on sept 12, we did not test the embryo since it was considered “common”.
Three weeks after my D&C I was surprised I did not get my period. Called my doctor and they asked to take a pregnancy test.
And ... we were pregnant again! Wohooo!! Amazing! “I guess we are fertile” is what we thought.
This time we were very happy but didn’t do any of the special stuff we did after we found out we were pregnant the first time. We just told our family and close friends.
Fast forward 8 weeks, I started spotting a little and fear set in. I had this feeling things went wrong again. I waited for our appointment and the exact same thing happened. No heartbeat. Baby developed to 7weeks and 3 days.
The shock hit just as hard the second time we heard those awful words again from our ultrasound tech and our OB.
Same options were put on the table to miscarry at home or do another D&C, we went for D&C on Nov 21. This time we wanted to test the embryo and try to understand what happened.
Results indicated our baby boy was a triploidy. He had one full extra set of chromosomes from mom and it was not life compatible. This meant that my egg did not complete miosis II, it did not divide. We were told this was extremely rara. Once in a lifetime occurrence... There was a 0.0001% chance of happening.
We went back for a consultation with our OB to see if there was anything else we could do. He gave us all options and we went for all of them. We did extensive blood work, ultrasounds, we even did genetic testing on myself and Patricio. Nothing was found. We were told we were incredibly unlucky, we should try again.
Tried again. And till this day I cannot believe the EXACT SAME story repeated itself. This time they wanted to wait until I was 9 weeks for our first ultrasound. In the mean time I went to 5 beta tests to make sure everything was looking good, and they did!
Three days before our appointment I started spotting. At our ultrasound, again no heartbeat. Baby girl developed to 7 weeks and 3 days.
D&C on April 3 > genetic testing > maternal triploidy.
WHAT IN THE WORLD?????
How??? How are we so terribly unlucky.
This was the time when our OB said “unfortunately, I can’t do anything else for you right now. I think you should go to a Reproductive specialist”.
And this is where our IVF journey started. We consulted with 3 different clinics to make sure we were going to the best possible place.
We are so incredibly lucky to have found our clinic, nurses are amazing and the doctor is super understanding, patient, and sets realistic expectations.
We started in May with a ton of blood work, saline ultrasound, more genetic testing, and review of our medical history.
In late May we found out our chances of a natural successful pregnancy was between 3-5%. This was due to our DNA being damaged by heavy metal exposure (this is a whole other topic I’m happy to share about later). My heart sank.
But then he told us with IVF after 4 cycles, we had 70% chance of a successful pregnancy.
We put all our hope and faith in the clinic and decided to have our first IVF cycle in July.
This was a pretty “easy” cycle. My body responded as expected and ended up with 16 eggs, 14 mature, 11 fertilized, 5 day 5 blastocyst, 1 normal PGS embryo and 1 low level mosaic.
We were going to transfer in August, but decided to give it another go and try to create more embryos for a higher success opportunity.
So we did our second IVF cycle in September. I went into this cycle with my expectations from the prior one. The meds will work great and everything will go as expected. And let’s just pray for ONE healthy embryo.
Little did we know, this cycle was COMPLETELY different. It was a wreck. My body wasn’t reacting to menopur or cetrotide, they had to triple my dose. My estrogen was lagging, and my follicles were slow and unevenly growing.
Before each check up I was praying and hoping things would be OK.
We made it to retrieval day thank goodness and yielded extremely different final results.
16 eggs retrieved, 12 mature, 10 fertilized, 4 day 6 blastocyst, THEE PGS normal embryos!
WHoly smokes how did that happen?!? I’m going to believe it was prayer.
And here we are today, getting a call from our doctor after our check up this morning and ready for our transfer on Oct 22!
I’m excited, anxious, nervous, but mostly hopeful that we will hold our baby in 9 months.
Through our journey so far, I’ve learned how helpful it was for me to talk about my losses to people.
It was important for me to accept that I needed to go to a counselor and work on my mental health and not be ashamed by it.
It was important for me to learn and believe that there is NO SHAME in miscarrying.
I learned that a community of TTC warriors makes you stronger. And to share my journey to help others, just like others are helping me.
I learned to not compare journeys. I had a tough time with this, considering my sister was pregnant. But I took faith and courage that my time was going to come and was there for the birth of my nephew, and it was beautiful.
I became to fully understand the absolutely MIRACLE it is to conceive a baby. And how each one of us in this earth is an Incredible miracle, that every tiny little step went well and we have ears, mouth, eyes, legs, and every single organ keeping us alive, including a rapidly beating heart.
I learned to celebrate the little victories and not hold back because you are afraid things will fall apart in your next doctor visit. Something really small I started doing is making a special meal every time we get good news, and jump with excitement and do a silly dance whenever we get the good news. This is what makes my soul happy. Let it be happy with no limits
I learned that I’m STRONGER THAN I THINK. Every single one of our losses has knocked us to the ground, has opened wounds we never knew existed, but we lean on each other to have the courage to get up and try again. Because it will be worth it.
Most importantly, I learned to not give up on God. Even though there’s times that I felt completely abandoned, lonely, and destroyed, I know HE has a plan for me and Patricio. A plan that will fill us with joy and happiness.
Don’t give up. The best is yet to come!